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[DEV PREVIEW] Dildos
A dildo is one of the most straightforward toys out there: a firm, insertable shape made for penetration, with no motor or moving parts. Simple as it is, it’s wonderfully versatile in a marriage — a husband can use one to pleasure his wife (a lovely option when hands get tired or he wants to add sensation), and couples often bring one in alongside everything else they enjoy. Here’s how to choose and use one well.
Choosing your first one
The two things that matter most for a beginner are size and shape. Start more modest than you think — you can always size up later, and something too large is the fastest way to end the fun. As for shape, a straight dildo is a versatile all-rounder, while one with a gentle upward curve is designed to reach the G-spot area. Whatever you choose, generous lubricant makes everything smoother and more comfortable.
Materials matter
Stick with non-porous, body-safe materials, which are hygienic and easy to keep clean:
- Silicone — soft, flexible, and the most popular choice. (Remember: use a water-based lube with silicone toys, since silicone lube can damage them.)
- Glass and metal — firm and smooth, incredibly easy to clean, and they hold temperature beautifully. Warm one in warm water or cool it briefly for a fun bit of temperature play.
Whatever the material, wash it before and after every use (see our toy care guide).
Double-ended & double-headed options
A double-ended or double-headed dildo has a usable end at both ends — some couples enjoy them for shared or simultaneous use, and some have a vibrating end for extra sensation. They take a little coordination and patience, so go slowly, use plenty of lube, and treat the first few tries as a fun experiment rather than a performance.
Using it together
A dildo shines as part of the whole experience rather than the whole show. Fold it into foreplay, let one spouse guide the other’s hand, and pair it with clitoral attention for many women. Communication is everything — a simple “slower,” “deeper,” or “right there” keeps it feeling great. And if you ever use a toy anally, it must have a flared base (see our anal play guide).
Comfort first, always
Start small, use lots of lubricant, and never push past what feels good — a toy should add to your pleasure, never cause pain. A quick prayer together beforehand keeps God at the center of your marriage, right where He belongs.
What it does for your marriage
A simple toy like this can open up new sensations and take the pressure off, giving the two of you fresh ways to enjoy each other and keep exploring together. Used with care and communication, it’s one more happy tool in the toolbox of a playful, connected marriage.
You’ll find a wide range of body-safe dildos at our sister store, Romantic Blessings.
A quick note: Married Love Games isn’t a medical provider, therapist, or licensed health professional, and these guides are shared for general education and encouragement only — not as medical, psychological, or therapeutic advice. Every couple is different, so use your own judgment, go at a pace you’re both comfortable with, and stop if anything hurts. If you have any health concerns, pain, or ongoing difficulty with intimacy, please speak with a qualified doctor or licensed professional.
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