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Anal Play

Did you know the anal area is one of the most nerve-rich, sensitive parts of the body? That makes anal play a deeply pleasurable option for many couples — and it is completely within God’s design for a husband and wife to explore together. The marriage bed is undefiled.

Anal play does call for more care than other kinds of play, so let’s walk through how to keep it safe, comfortable, and fun.

Prefer to watch? Here’s a quick video walkthrough:

The three cardinal rules of anal play

If it hurts, stop. Pain means something isn’t right — ease off, add lube, and slow down.
Only ever use toys with a flared base (more on why below).
Never go from the anus to the vulva or vagina. Moving bacteria between those areas can easily cause infection.

Lubricate well

The anal canal doesn’t self-lubricate, so you always need plenty of lube. For fingers, a silicone lubricant gives a long-lasting, slippery feel; when you move to toys, switch to a water-based lube, since silicone lube can damage silicone toys. (You’ll find both at our sister store, Romantic Blessings.)

Start small and go slow

Begin with a finger, then work up to small toys made for the job. The receiving partner should take slow, deep breaths and consciously relax every muscle — including the jaw, which is directly connected to the pelvic floor. The giving partner should go even more slowly than feels necessary. If there’s any pain, back up, add more lube, slow down, and keep going gently. Talk to each other the whole time, and focus on your connection and breathing.

Why a flared base matters

The anus is a sphincter muscle, which means it can draw in anything inserted — so a toy without a flared base can be pulled in completely. Always choose anal toys with a flared base, and consider a graduated set so you can move up in size slowly and comfortably. Anal beads offer a unique sensation as they’re slowly removed, too. (Shop flared-base anal toys at Romantic Blessings.)

For easy cleanup, latex gloves and condoms (on him or on toys) both work well — and always wash hands and toys afterward. Most of all: relax, take your time, communicate, and enjoy exploring together.