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Anal Play Guide

Did you know that the anal canal is considered one of the most sensitive areas on a body due to its high concentration of nerve endings? Moreover, there are multiple types of nerve endings, including receptors for touch, temperature, and pain. This makes anal play an incredibly erotic activity for many couples.

I want to begin by reassuring you that anal play is not prohibited in Scripture when performed between a husband and wife. The marriage bed remains undefiled.

Anal play does require more caution than traditional penetrative sex, so let’s talk about how to keep yourselves safe.

There are three cardinal rules of anal play: If it hurts, you are doing something wrong and need to stop. Only ever use toys with a flared base. And never ever, ever go from the anus to the vulva. Moving bacteria from the anal canal to the vulva/vaginal area can introduce infections quite easily, but this is simple to prevent by using gloves, like these latex gloves from Prowler. You can also use condoms for penetrative anal play, either on him or any toys you may choose to use.

As the anal canal is self-lubricating, you always need to add some sort of lubricant. If you are only using fingers, you can try this Pjur Silicone Lube for a very slippy experience. When you are ready to move on to toys, switch to a water based lube as silicone lube should not be used with silicone toys.

Speaking of toys, I always recommend starting small, with a finger. But when you are ready to move past fingers, as you can these Aneros Peridise stimulators, as you can see they are quite small.

I’d also like to point out here the flared base. The anus is a sphincter muscle, which means it will suck up anything inserted – so you risk losing a toy inside of you unless you are using a flared base, designed to prevent this from happening.

When inserting a finger or a toy, the receiving partner will want to take slow, deep breaths and focus on relaxing every muscle in their body (including your jaw! – your jaw is directly connected to your pelvic floor). The partner doing the inserting will want to go extremely slowly – more slowly than you think you need to go. If at any time the receiving partner feels pain, back up a bit, add some more lubricant, slow down, and simply keep trying, ever so slowly. Talk to each other through the process, and really focus on your connection and breathing.

As you continue to explore with anal toys, you will be able to start to move up in the size of the toys you are playing with. This set from Try-Curious comes with five plugs of varying sizes, as well as a set of anal beads, which provide a totally unique sensation as they are removed. You can try slowly pulling them out one by one as your partner orgasms for a very unique experience!