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[DEV PREVIEW] Butt Plugs & Anal Beads
Anal toys are among the most popular ways couples explore this kind of play, and it’s easy to see why: they deliver a pleasant sense of fullness and unique sensation without requiring a lot. If anal play is new to you, start with our Anal Play guide for the fundamentals — going slow, lots of lube, relaxing — then come back here to choose the right toy. First, though, the single most important rule.
Flared base — non-negotiable
The anus is a muscle that can draw things in, so every anal toy must have a flared base or a retrieval ring that’s wider than the rest of the toy. This is what keeps it from being pulled in completely — a genuine (and avoidable) trip to the emergency room. Never use anything anally that doesn’t have one.
Butt plugs
A butt plug is worn to create a steady, pleasant feeling of fullness — often during other kinds of play, where it heightens everything else that’s happening. The golden rule is to start small. Beginner plugs are slim (barely more than a finger), and a graduated set lets your body adjust to larger sizes over time. Use plenty of lubricant, ease it in slowly, and never force it. Decorative plugs — with a pretty jewel on the base — are simply plugs with a nicer-looking base; they work exactly the same way.
Anal beads
Anal beads are a series of graduated balls on a flexible string with a ring or handle at the end. Part of their charm is unique: while inserting them one at a time (slowly, with lots of lube) feels good, the biggest wave of sensation usually comes from removing them — and many couples time that gentle pull-out for the moment of climax. Go slowly in both directions, and never yank.
Materials
As with any insertable toy, choose non-porous, body-safe materials:
- Silicone — soft and flexible, ideal for beginners (pair it with a water-based lube).
- Glass or metal — firm, weighty, effortless to clean, and great for adding a little temperature play.
Clean every toy thoroughly before and after use, and never move a toy from anal to vaginal use without washing it first.
Relax and take your time. Tension is the enemy here — warm up first, breathe, and go at the receiving spouse’s pace. A quick prayer together beforehand keeps God at the center of your marriage, right where He belongs.
What it does for your marriage
Exploring something new like this — gently, patiently, and only as far as you both want — builds trust and adds a fresh dimension to your intimacy. As always, either spouse can pass at any time, and that’s honored completely.
Flared-base plugs, graduated sets, and anal beads are available at our sister store, Romantic Blessings.
A quick note: Married Love Games isn’t a medical provider, therapist, or licensed health professional, and these guides are shared for general education and encouragement only — not as medical, psychological, or therapeutic advice. Every couple is different, so use your own judgment, go at a pace you’re both comfortable with, and stop if anything hurts. If you have any health concerns, pain, or ongoing difficulty with intimacy, please speak with a qualified doctor or licensed professional.
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