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Prostate Play Guide

Did you know men can be sexually pleasured internally – that’s not just a woman’s thing? Many men who experiment with prostate play report longer or more intense orgasms with having their prostate stimulated.

So how do you do it? There are a few ways. If you are a bit squeamish at the thought, you can try adding gloves, like these latex ones from Prowler. But whether you choose to glove or not, I always recommend cleaning up well before playing – taking some soap and water to the area is plenty.

Make sure he is fully relaxed. It helps if he can focus on his breathing, and relaxing all his muscles, his jaw in particular, as our jaws are directly connected to our pelvic floors. Engage in whatever sexy foreplay you like to set the mood and get him aroused.

When you are ready to start, I recommend beginning with an external massage. The prostate is located between a man’s anus and the root of his penis. So by putting firm pressure on the perineum – which is the area just between his testicles and anus – and aiming that pressure towards the root of his penis, you should be able to provide pleasurable external stimulation to the prostate. You can try using your fingers to rub small circles in the area, or you can grab one of your vibrators to do the job for you!

When you are ready to move to internal stimulation – when he is fully aroused, you’ll want to insert just one finger, about three inches into the anus. Make sure that your fingers are well lubricated, as the anus is not self-lubricating, and no one wants any micro-tears in the soft tissues in that area. Aim the pad of your finger towards the base of the penis, and you should feel a small, ridged spot about the size of a bean. Try firmly massaging this area while providing stimulation to his penis, for an explosive orgasm. Make sure you are using the pads of your finger, and not the tip, as you want to try for a circular sort of motion, rather than a poking sensation.

When you are confident you can easily locate the spot for the internal massage, you can start adding toys into the mix. You should never ever use a toy in the anus that does not have a flared base, like this one here. Using a toy without a flared base puts you at risk of the sphincter muscles sucking the toy up into your body completely, and that’s going to kill the mood fast.

This set of Aneros Peridise anal stimulators are a great beginner toy for prostate massage, as they are not much larger than a finger. You should gently work your way up to larger toys over time, to allow his body time to learn to accommodate the larger sizes. When stimulating the prostate with a toy, you want to avoid a poking motion and instead aim for a sort of circular grinding motion.

That’s what makes this set from Try-Curious so great – the graduated sizing of the anal plugs allows you to gently increase sizing over time.

That’s what makes this set from Try-Curious so great – the graduated sizing of the anal plugs allows you to gently increase sizing over time.

When you are ready to take your prostate play to even more explosive levels, try combining a wand vibrator with this Wand Essentials Hummingbird Attachment. The vibrator becomes a stroker to provide stimulation this his penis, while you can use your fingers or other toys to provide stimulation to his prostate. Make sure you’re ready for a clean-up on Aisle 5 after this adventure though!

Always remember to wash your hands and toys after playing with a back door, and never ever go from anal play to vaginal play. You do not want to cross contaminate any of those bacteria.

And remember to have fun!