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Impact Toys Play Guide

If you have ever walked by your spouse and smacked their rear as they are cooking, you’ve already engaged in impact play!

Impact play sometimes gets a bad rap in some faith circles, due to people not really understanding it. Impact play is, at it’s most basic level, a form of sensation play. It is a way to experiment with different sensations your bodies can create together and finding ways to experiment with blurring the lines of pleasure and something more.

Our brains are designed to release endorphins and other chemicals when we experience both pain and pleasure, and for some people, the combination of the two is a very heady experience.

A man might enjoy having his penis and testicles stimulated with a vibrator. You can also try applying the vibrator head to the area between his testicles and anus while performing oral sex for a new experience.

There are two basic types of impact play: Thud and Sting. Generally, the heavier/wider the implement, the thuddier the sensation will be. The thinner/lighter the implement, the more sting you will feel.

You can obviously start out with just your hand, experimenting with a flat palm, or cupping your fingers. What if you added gloves, like these latex ones by Prowler? How would that change the sensations you are creating?

Wands may seem like a bit of a one trick pony, but you can get a wide variety of accessories to turn them into multi-functional tools!

You can also get some fantastic starter toys, like this Lover’s Kit, which includes a small flogger, a light paddle, and a feather tickler. The flogger, with it’s light and thin falls, will provide a light stinging sensation. The paddle is also fairly light but will provide a sensation further towards the thud end of the spectrum. Using the feather tickler in between strikes really leans into the sensation play experience – how does your body react to the juxtaposition of a feather light touch to the bite of the paddle?

You can also get multi-tool kits, like this set by Ouch! It includes bondage accessories, a blindfold (removing one of your senses can intensify your sensation play), and a flogger.

Safety is paramount when playing with things like impact. The spouse who is applying the impact sensations needs to be absolutely certain they are only striking their intended target – and that means practicing with any implements BEFORE ever using them on their spouse. I suggest practicing striking a pillow or stuffed animal in the same spot repeatedly until you can manage to hit the intended spot with a fair degree of accuracy repeatedly. Implements such as paddles and floggers can “wrap” around your spouse’s hips, causing bruising and soreness if you are unable to control where you are landing.

If you are new to impact play, it is best to limit your targets to your spouse’s butt and upper thighs – as these areas are well padded with muscle and fat. Striking other areas increases your risk of injury. Start with very light force. Lightly bringing the blood to the surface of the skin will reduce legitimate, unintended pain over time, versus going hard and heavy from the outset will likely just produce the wrong kind of pain. You can increase your force and tempo as you both find a rhythm that makes your hearts sparkle.

Being aware of your partner’s verbal and non-verbal communication throughout this sort of play is imperative. Make sure you stop before it reaches a point it isn’t fun any longer, for either of you.

Sometimes, intense play like this can leave one or both of you with some confusing feelings after an encounter – you might feel sad or weepy, or even angry. This is because all the feel good endorphins are dropping out of your brain at a pretty fast rate, and your brain isn’t used to the sudden increase and drop off. Make sure you spend lots of time cuddling and taking good care of each other after to help prevent this!

Go have some sexy new fun!